Tag: Body Language Tips

What Your Interview Body Language Reveals About You?

Reinventing your careerYou may well-spoken, highly confident, and have a perfect resume. However, committing body language mistakes can cost you the job.

The handshake is the first step taken when entering an interview. Although it lasts just a few seconds, it gives the interviewer a sense of your character based on your handshake’s firmness as well as eye contact. A weak handshake paired with lack of eye contact portrays you as being nervous. A firm handshake with good eye contact expresses confidence and professionalism. An overpowering handshake on the other hand can stamp you as an arrogant and manipulative person. It is therefore important to start the interview positively by giving a proper handshake.

To make a positive impression with your body language, reflect on and adopt the following:

Good posture

Your posture is an indicator of your level of confidence and interestedness in the conversation. Slumping can be taken to imply lack of interest and confidence. Sitting stiffly without any body movements is an indicator of nervousness. It also makes it difficult for the interviewer to build a rapport with you. Sitting at the tip of the chair shows that you would rather be somewhere else.

Leaning back in your chair gives the impression of you being overly relaxed and unprofessional. Crossing your arms and legs projects you as having created a barrier between yourself and the interviewer.

To exude confidence, engagement and professionalism, sit on the chair with your lower back touching the back panel, and lean forward at an angle of ten degrees. Place your hands on the arms of the chair or on the desk. Use them to gesture from time to time to help you look more expressive. Plant both feet onto the ground to maintain stability.

Good eye contact

Eye contact is a connection tool. It helps you connect with the interviewer beyond words. However, there is a thin line between good and bad eye contact. When you continuously stare at the interviewer without taking short breaks, you can make him or her feel uncomfortable. This will make even a casual conversation seem to be a lecture.

Whether you are speaking or listening, you should maintain eye contact with the interviewer for a period of time not exceeding ten seconds then quickly glance away before restoring eye contact. If you are being interviewed by more than one person, look mostly at the person asking you the question, but occasionally glance aside at the other interviewers. They will be impressed by you trying to involve them in the conversation.


The speed, tone and pitch of your voice create an impression. A speaking rate that is too slow can make you come off as lacking confidence. On the contrary, a speaking rate that is too fast can make you hard to understand and also portray you as being nervous. Speaking in a monotonous tone and pitch makes it difficult for interviewer to stay engaged.

It is important for you to control your voice. Vary your tone and pitch to create engagement and to emphasize important points.

Moderate nodding

Excessive nodding during an interview can be interpreted as you wanting to please by all means thus agreeing with everything being said. It can consequently make you lose credibility.

You should have control over your nodding. Simply nod once or twice when you agree with something and pair it with a smile of agreement then stop. You can also show how much you are engaged by tilting your head to the side as if trying to listen more attentively.


Fidgeting is distracting. Although it may happen unconsciously, it may be perceived as you being bored, dishonest and not focused.

During the interview, you should always try to be conscious of the movement of your hands, legs and feet so as to avoid fidgeting.

You should master your body language to avoid being misinterpreted by the interviewer. You can practice in front of a mirror or set up a mock interview and video record the whole session. Review the video recording to identify areas you need to work on before the interview. The more aware you are of your body language, the more you can improve your interview skills.

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10 Ways To Empower Your Communication

Reinventing your careerThe Blarney Stone is a historical stone, or actually part of the Blarney Castle in Ireland where it was believed that kissing the stone can grant you the gift of gab. Yeah, it seems strange in this day and age, but who are we to question tradition? It’s not like I’m saying that Santa Claus doesn’t exist (OOPS!).

There is so much to know about conversation that anyone, even I, could ever realize. You can go though watching talk shows; radio programs; clubs dedicated to public speaking; ordinary conversations; certain rules still apply when it comes to interaction through words. It may sound tedious, I know, but even though it’s your mouth that’s doing the work, your brain works twice as hard to churn out a lot of things you know.

So what better way to start learning to be an effective communication is to know the very person closest to you: yourself.

1. What you know.

Education is all about learning the basics, but to be an effective speaker is to practice what you’ve learned. My stint as guest at every Toastmasters’ meeting I go to taught me that we all have our limitations, but that doesn’t mean we can’t learn to keep up and share what we know.

2. Listening.

It’s just as important as asking questions. Sometimes listening to the sound of our own voice can teach us to be a little bit confident with ourselves and to say the things we believe in with conviction.

3. Humility

We all make mistakes, and sometimes we tend to slur our words, stutter, and probably mispronounce certain words even though we know what it means, but rarely use it only to impress listeners. So in a group, don’t be afraid to ask if you’re saying the right word properly and if they’re unsure about it then make a joke out of it. I promise you it’ll make everyone laugh and you can get away with it as well.

4. Eye Contact

There’s a lot to say when it comes to directing your attention to your audience with an eye-catching gaze. It’s important that you keep your focus when talking to a large group in a meeting or a gathering, even though he or she may be gorgeous.

5. Kidding around

A little bit of humor can do wonders to lift the tension, or worse boredom when making your speech. That way, you’ll get the attention of the majority of the crowd and they’ll feel that you’re just as approachable, and as human to those who listen.

6. Be like the rest of them

Interaction is all about mingling with other people. You’ll get a lot of ideas, as well as knowing what people make them as they are.

7. Me, Myself, and I

Admit it, there are times you sing to yourself in the shower. I know I do! Listening to the sound of your own voice while you practice your speech in front of a mirror can help correct the stress areas of your pitch. And while you’re at it you can spruce up as well.

8. With a smile

A smile says it all much like eye contact. There’s no point on grimacing or frowning in a meeting or a gathering, unless it’s a wake. You can better express what you’re saying when you smile.

9. A Role Model

There must be at least one or two people in your life you have listened to when they’re at a public gathering or maybe at church. Sure they read their lines, but taking a mental note of how they emphasize what they say can help you once you take center stage.

10. Preparation

Make the best out of preparation rather than just scribbling notes and often in a hurried panic. Some people like to write things down on index cards, while other resort to being a little more silly as they look at their notes written on the palm of their hand (not for clammy hands, please). Just be comfortable with what you know since you enjoy your work.

And that about wraps it up. These suggestions are rather amateurish in edgewise, but I’ve learned to empower myself when it comes to public or private speaking and it never hurts to be with people to listen how they make conversations and meetings far more enjoyable as well as educational.

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